6 Ways to Survive the End of the School Year

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It’s almost the end of another school year and it makes me think of a story my grandma used to tell me as a little girl. She used to go get some chickens from the farm, come home and chop their heads off so they could prepare them to eat.  She said they would run around the backyard like crazy.  As gruesome as the story, I always thought the vision of chickens running around headless, was funny!

Now I am the chicken, head cut off, running around like crazy at the end of the year!

It’s not as funny, when you are the figurative chicken.

The end of the school year is crazy.  There are programs, graduations, gifts, games, awards, field days, special outfits, special days, meals and festivities.  Not to mention the day to day chores and duties that still needs to get done.

I find myself in a constant state of panic.   There are crazed stricken texts to my friends — what do I need to send for that camp, you know that one, by some funny name I can’t pronounce.  Have you figured out how to do the dance recital hair?  Then, looking at my calendar to see when I can fit in the washing of the underwear since turning them inside out is frowned upon.  Dinner?  Are you trying to send me into a tailspin?

All jesting aside this time of year can leave you down-right exhausted.  Dog-tired.  Bone-weary.  Frazzled.  Kaput.  Sapped.  Shot.  Spent.  Ready to drop.  Outta gas.  You get the idea.  Maybe you know the feeling. After a few years of navigating this time of year, I have found there are 6 things I can do to help prevent me from becoming a headless, crazed chicken!

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1 – Go to God for rest.

In the middle of the chaos, God will provide comfort with His peace as only He can do.  No amount of flexing our weary muscles will do what we He can.  I like to take time with my prayer journal and continue on in my daily bible study.  I don’t always get to it everyday but when I take the time I feel less frazzled and more ready to take on the day.  It doesn’t have to be long but just taking a little time helps so much!

2 – Sit down and plan out your week.

It might be good to do this with your spouse so that in case you forget something, they can remind you and they might have their own additions to add to the calendar.  It helps me to visually see it all written out.  Then, we can form a plan of attack.  Sometimes, we have to divide and conquer because we simply can’t be at all places at all times, especially this time of year.

3 – Meal plan & make a grocery list.

Even if it’s not part of your normal routine, after you plan out your week, meal plan.  Keep it simple with easy to prepare or frozen meals.  If you have time one night, make a bigger meal and then eat leftovers for subsequent meals.  This post has 10 simple meal ideas kids love.

4 –  Get sleep.

I find my inclination is always to stay up and keep working and getting things ready for the next day but then I wind myself up and I have a hard time falling sleep which becomes a vicious cycle.  Instead, if I make a to do list for the next day and go to bed, I can get up an hour earlier to work on the list.

5 – Ask for help.

It’s hard for me to ask for help or even accept help that is offered but there is no way I can do everything on my own.  Asking my kids to help with additional chores and my husband to help too is not a bad thing.  I sometimes have to ask friends or family to watch my kids or carpool.  It’s all hands on deck to keep the ship afloat especially at the end of the year.

6 – Give yourself grace.

I sometimes forget that it’s a season and that soon the end of year chaos will give way to a much lighter summer schedule in just a few short weeks.
So weary friend, keep on, keeping on in this busy, pandemonium, you are not alone.  This time of years you really do start to feel like a chicken with your head cut off but this too shall pass. Remember whose you are and who will give you rest if you simply seek Him.  Shortly we will be in the throes of summer and I can’t wait!

Until next time keep on keeping on with a simple purposeful life!

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A Lesson in Sportsmanship

I was sitting on the sidelines of my son’s football game on another warm, sunny fall afternoon.  Before we arrived, I had given him another one of my “mom pep talks.”  It went a little like this, “make sure to be a team player, cheer on your teammates when they find success, be respectful to the officials and coaches, be kind, play hard and with heart.”  As usual, he answered with a haughty but agreeable “I know mom.”  

As he ran off to the field, my husband leaned over to tell me about a guy named Joel Lanning.
You might not know who he is but he is someone I want my son to know.  

Joel Lanning, from Ankeny, Iowa went to Iowa State University on a football scholarship with goals to be the starting quarterback.  He served in that role last year but at the end of they year, the head coach pulled him aside and told him he would no longer assume that role.  It would now be filled by a fellow teammate.  The coach then asked him to move to defensive linebacker, a position Lanning had not played since middle school. 

The coach shared in an interview with ESPN that most of the time after those difficult conversations, the player leaves the program looking for an opportunity elsewhere.  A curious thing happened, however, when Joel Lanning responded with something along the lines of I will do what’s best for the team.

In a day in age where it’s all about me, myself and I, it is refreshing to see a talented, college athlete who maybe could have found some serious playtime in the position he loved, put his personal interests aside for some serious team spirit.   Serious team spirit.

On a sunny, fall Saturday Lanning and his teammates headed to Oklahoma Sooner country to play a game of football.  ISU was slated by Vegas to be 31 point underdogs.

In a shocking turn of events, Iowa State, a 2-2 unranked team, with a 3rd string quarterback starting, a 2nd year coach and a young team took down a 4-0 team.  The Sooners had national title dreams and a Heisman trophy candidate, Iowa State beat them on their home turf.  

It was the first time ISU won against a top 5 opponent on the road EVER.  You get the idea…this win was the stuff movies are made of, a Cinderella story if you will.  

And Do you know who donned a “C” and led the charge?  Joel Lanning.

He played both sides of the field.  He threw a few snaps as quarterback before throwing down some serious you know what on the defense including a fumble recovery to change the momentum of the game.

Today the nation woke up, newspapers, media outlets and social media a buzz about the ISU cyclones and a guy named Joel Lanning, the recipient of the national defensive player of the week.  

If he had walked away because he no longer played starting quarterback, he would not have found his potential as a linebacker.  How many players can boast they played both sides of the field successfully?

So what can we all learn from a guy like Joel Lanning?  

1.  Put your team first and yourself 2nd, remember it’s a team sport. Do what’s best for your team.
2.  Take adversity in your life and make it an opportunity to learn and grow.  You might just find success you didn’t know was possible.  

3.  Don’t give up.  Keep on keeping on!

I hope if given the same circumstances, my son will choose to be the kind of selfless player Joel Lanning is.  I just wonder what his mom said to him before his pee-wee football games?  

You can bet, I will continue to give those “mom pep talks” because the lessons learned on the field will prove fruitful in life long after.  Here’s to raising our kids to be team players who play with some serious heart.  Just like a guy named Joel Lanning.
Now I am off to make myself a #7 jersey because Lanning has made me a big fan!  Go Cyclones!

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Until next time, keep on keeping on with a joyful, faith-filled life.  #tribekoko
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Desiring Light in the Darkness

My husband held my daughter’s hand, my son followed behind. I took up the caboose pushing the stroller.  The dark was immediate.  We could barely see our feet beneath us as we walked into the zoo exhibit.

Suddenly, a rustling next to me and I screamed and jumped, immediately followed by my son screaming and as if dominoes cascaded, my daughter jumped supernaturally into my husband’s arms as she screamed too.

It was a wallaby padding along in the darkness next to us and when we realized that we all started to laugh at the silliness of our fear.  My husband cackling and saying, he wished he had captured that all on video.

However, everything seems scarier in the dark when you cannot see.  As we ventured on, my daughter said, “Dad, I can’t see, someone needs to turn on the lights.”

It got me thinking, that once a person knows and sees the light, it’s hard to live in darkness.  We want to be illumined not by physical light, like my daughter wanted in that moment, but the spiritual light that knowing and having an intimate relationship with Jesus brings.

We live in a dark, harsh world full of uncertainty and fear, made more difficult by not being able to see without light.

Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”  
John 8:12 ESV

But how do you have the light of life? 

It means knowing that Jesus went to the cross to take your sins (and we all have them – big and small).   He took the death penalty we each deserve so that we may have everlasting life in Heaven with God (Romans 5:8).  When we confess that to God, then He gives us the Holy Spirit to illumine this life.

That if you shall confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and shall believe in your heart that God has raised him from the dead, you shall be saved.  
Romans 10:9 ESV

What if you already know Jesus and feel the darkness closing in?

I was walking with my friends down a gravel, dirt path in the middle of the church camp.  The stars shone over head on the crystal clear night but they did not help in the blinding darkness.  My friend Jennifer flipped on her phone’s flash light and suddenly we could see 3 feet in front of us.  Step by step, we made it to our destination by the light.

Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.
Psalm 118:105

God promises to illumine our path, He doesn’t promise to light the entire path so you see the destination.  But why, you might ask.  Trust.  If you saw the end, would you have to trust Him to get you there?  No.  As He illumines your path step by step, He will guide you to where He is leading you.  I know that is so hard when we just want to know it all turns out okay.  Faith.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways submit to Him and He will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV

God is trustworthy.  He does not fail.  We must go to Him in prayer and confident assurance that He will lead us down the path, lighting one step and then the next.  That sure beats walking in total darkness, alone left to our fears, doesn’t it?

I heard her cry so I stumbled out of a dead sleep to go to her room.  My daughter lost her blanket in her sleep and couldn’t find it.  I turned on the light and suddenly, we found it.  In the light, what was lost was found.
When I turned off the light to walk back to my room and go to bed, I realized how much darker it felt once I had seen the light.  There is no need to walk in darkness, once you have seen the light. 
If you are struggling, fumbling in the darkness of trials and you haven’t see the light of Jesus, make today the day you see it.  Pray and ask Him into your life.  If you have questions, email me.  
If you know Him and the trials of this life feel overwhelming and you are having a hard time seeing the next right step, let me encourage you to pray and ask Him to guide you step by step.  Not only will He lead you but you will find a deeper dependence on Him than you knew before.
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.
John 1:5
The Lord is my light and my salvation —
Whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life —
of whom shall I be afraid?
Psalm 27:1
Until next time, keep on keeping on IN THE LIGHT with a joyful, faith-filled life.  #tribekoko
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How to Overcome Swimsuit Anxiety This Summer

There I was checking and double checking my swimsuit.  Everything was tucked into the right places and all clips were correctly hooked as I removed my cover-up. I  was on the edge of the pool.  I did it I was in my swimsuit at the pool.  How do you overcome swimsuit anxiety this summer?

Find A Swimsuit You Love

I had spent hours upon hours, rifling the racks at every retail store hoping to find something that covered and contoured to give the best lift and shape for my post-baby body.

Some of you may avoid pools and swimsuits altogether because you don’t like how you look in them.

Find a suit that makes you feel confident.  Try on several different styles.  It’s hard to tell on the rack so put it on your body.

Take a long a trusted friend who will give you their honest opinion.  We don’t always see things as they are when it comes to our body.  A 2nd opinion is always a good idea.

Darker colored swimsuits like navy and black tend to better hide problem areas you don’t want to draw attention to as well.

Don’t be afraid of shopping online some of my favorite swimsuits have come from Amazon and bonus you get to try them in the privacy of your own home.  If you buy “prime”, they offer free returns as well.  I have linked some of my favorites below.

Remember, to read the reviews online.  Real women will tell you what size you bought.  Most of the swimsuits I have bought have been a bigger size than what I wear in pants and shirts.  I would rather have a well fitting suit than a smaller size. I have linked some of my favorites below.


Remember, You Don’t Want to Miss Out

Put on that swimsuit and get out there!  The people that you care most about think you are beautiful and want you to!

It might not be comfortable but if we want our kids to be brave, we need to be brave.  You are beautiful.  There is nothing to be ashamed of.  We are often far harder on ourselves than anyone else.  I venture to guess there is not a woman alive that loves every last inch of her body.  I always remind myself, I would rather put on a swimsuit than fear missing out on making memories with my family and friends.

Everyone Is More Worried About Themselves

No one is looking at you like you looked at yourselves in that full-length mirror analyzing every stretch mark and cellulite pockmark.  They are all too worried about what they look like in a mom swimsuit and making their own mad dash to the deep end.

The More Your Do it The Easier It Gets

The first time I put on my swimsuit every season, I get the heebeejeebees but then it gets easier as the summer goes on.  Just put on your swimsuit and get out there.


One Last thing…Get Your Hair Wet!

You only live once. Since you did it and got your swimsuit on, don’t forget to get your hair wet too.  Your kids are only little so long.  Someday you will be sitting on the pool’s edge in that darling straw hat.  For now get in and have fun.  Your family does not care if you look like a drowned rat, they just care that you are getting in there and making memories.

Remember, who are you most concerned about…

Who are you trying to please the random person you don’t know or your kids?  We all fight the temptation, but in 20 years they will remember you got your hair wet and the gal down the pool won’t remember tomorrow.  Be the mom that wears their mom swimsuit, gets out there and has some fun.  We only have so many summers with our kids, I want to make the most of it!

Until next time keep on keeping on with a simple purposeful life!

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How to Beat The Year End Weariness

My grandma used to tell me the story when I was a little girl about how they would go get some chickens from the farm, come home and chop their heads off as they prepared them for dinner.  She said they would run around the backyard like crazy.  As gruesome as the story, I always thought the vision of chickens running around headless, was funny.


I am the chicken, head cut off, running around like crazy.

It’s not as funny, when you are the figurative chicken.  

It’s the end of the year.  There are programs, graduations, gifts, games, awards, field days, special outfits, special days, meals and festivities to be had.  Not to mention the day to day that still needs to get done.

I am in a constant state of panic.  Crazed stricken texts to my friends — what do I need to send for that camp, you know that one, by some funny name I can’t pronounce.  Then, looking at my calendar to see when I can fit in the washing of the underwear since turning them inside out is frowned upon.  Dinner?  Are you trying to send me into a tailspin?  Where’s the paper bag?

All jesting aside this time of year can leave you down-right exhausted.  Dog-tired.  Bone-weary.  Frazzled.  Limp.  Kaput.  Sapped.  Shot.  Spent.  Ready to drop.  Outta gas.  Bushed.  Wasted.  Drained. 

You get the idea.  Maybe you know the feeling.

In the heat of the moment, our knee-jerk reaction is to buckle down and get to work doing it all in our own strength.  Taking any unnecessary items off the to-do list to get the necessary items done.

I pulled the plug on time with God for a few days.  I just didn’t have time to sit at His feet in prayer or  read the bible.  

Bad idea.  I didn’t feel ahead or flourish.  On the contrary, I began to flounder.

I was a fish flopping on the ground searching for air.  I was the chicken flapping around like crazy without my head.

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-30

Although the story my Grandma told made me laugh as a child, I will let the actual chickens do the crazy dance.  Instead, I made a conscious effort to carve out time for God.  Take time to sit at His feet.  Give him my cares, my worries, my frustrations, my to do lists. 

Breathe in that scripture from Matthew 11 that promises that when we go to God with our burdens and are weariness that He will give us rest.  He will give us rest.  That time will look different for all of us but when your shoulders start to sag, your mind starts running, you can’t fall asleep, seek Him.


In the midst of chaos you cannot change, He will give you rest.

It doesn’t mean this season of chaos will go away but in the middle of the storm, he will shelter us with His peace as only He can do.  No amount of flexing our weary muscles will bring that relief.

So weary friend, keep on, keeping on in this busy, pandemonium.  Remember whose you are and who will give you rest if you simply seek Him.  He is willing and waiting to walk with you. 


Oh, what peace we often forfeit

Oh, what needless pain we bear

All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer


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An Open Letter To Moms Who Struggle To Do It All

Recently I was knee deep, rather thigh deep in laundry.  A series of events including strep throat for mom, an over night accident, guests from out of town and life aided in the backup in the laundry department.  There it set in a huge pile on our bed one evening.  A huge weight on my shoulders and a huge pang of guilt that I couldn’t get it all done.

Out of my mouth, I heard myself utter three words to my husband, almost painful to say — I need help.  


I need help — 3 painful words to say

He happily got to work helping and we were done folding laundry in about 20 minutes time.  He didn’t think a thing of it or point his finger at me and say failure.  He was more than happy to pitch in, of course.

Why is it so hard for me to utter those three words — I need help.

Somewhere along the way I got this notion, maybe you did too, that as stay at home mom, mother, woman, we should be able to do all the things, be all the things to everybody, everywhere.  We have high expectations and when our performance neither exceeds or even meets those expectations, we feel like we failed and have guilt.


As women we got the notion that we should be able to do all the things, be all the things to everybody, everywhere.

I feel like a failure when I admit I need help.  Since adding blogging to my daily plate, I have felt this tension more frequently.  You might say, “give up blogging” but that’s not the root of the problem. The root is I want to be self-sufficient.  I want to do it all.


I want to be self-sufficient.  I want to do it all.  

Is it the worst thing to have my kids put their own clothes away, empty the dishwasher, put the pillows back on the couch they placed on the ground to play Ninja Warrior?  NO!  There are things on my daily to do list and yours,  we don’t have to do.


Family life is all hands on deck to keep this ship sailing and pointed in the right direction.

Family life is a team sport.  It’s not mom does everything while everyone else watches from the sidelines.  I can make it that way.   Its really all hands on deck to keep the ship sailing and pointed in the right direction.  It’s calling people off the bench when you have fallen behind and you need support.  Teaching our kids responsibility and pitching in will serve them well in this life.


Pride kept me from asking for help, humility brought me to a place of peace.

What have I learned from uttering those three difficult words is I do need help.  I am not self-sufficient.  The bible even tells us of our need for God, we can’t do it on our own.  Not our salvation, not this life.  We need God and we need others.  No one can do it all, even if it looks like they are on the outside.

I need help.  We all do.  We can’t do it alone.  

Happy Mother’s Day to all those women out there who love and care for so many others every single day!  May you know how much you do DO and how much you are loved today and everyday.  Keep on, keeping on #tribekoko.

 xoxo ERIN

How To Overcome Envy

If only…I had that house. That car. Their social media following.  That body.  That wardrobe. Those well-behaved kids.  Their marriage.  Their jobs.  Their bank account.  Their love.  Their purse.  Their green grass.  Their fill in the blank.  Yep I have thought them all. #guiltyascharged

The grass is always greener on the other side we tell ourselves.  It’s better and I want it.

Envy plagues us all.  No one passes through life without envy.

 I should know, just the other day I was at my friends house and I just had to try out her new vacuum. Who covets a vacuum? This girl.

My 18 month old daughter always envies the toy she doesn’t have.   Whatever her sister has is surely better and she starts squawking because she wants it.  Envy starts young.

Envy will eat away at us from the inside out.   It will rob us of joy and peace and contentedness.
Solomon who wrote most of the book of proverbs says envy rots the bones.  Our bones hold us up, provide strength and protect our internal organs and not only that but the bone marrow within the bone structure provides life giving nutrients to our blood.  If our bones slowly rot away, our whole body will become weak and decayed.  So metaphorically Solomon tells us envy will make us susceptible to spiritual decay and weakness.  In the NLT version of the bible, it’s translated,  jealousy is like a cancer to the bones.  
 Thankfully Solomon gives hope– A heart at peace gives life to the body

So how do you put away your envy in favor of a heart at peace?
There will always be opportunity to envy.  Someone will always have something you desire.  My momma always told me no matter how much money you have, you will always want a dollar more.
Envy begins with a self-centered, here and now attitude and ends when we are eternally minded.
What we covet here on Earth will not go with us.  Have you ever seen a u-haul behind a hurst?  When we stop to evaluate the envious desire in light of whats to come, we can be thankful for what truly matters.
Jesus shares about storing treasure in Matthew 6:19-21–
Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth where moths and vermin destroy and where thieves break in and steal.  But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
What we treasure the most will control us.  What controls your thoughts, actions and motives?  We must consciously take our focus off of me and now and look to God and eternity.  


Envy focuses on what we don’t have and contentedness focuses on all we do.
 Seek Him, repent and ask Him to renew your mind.  We all envy but we can replace envy with contentedness.  It’s a choice.  

A tangible way to overcome envy is to choose gratitude.  When we feel envy creep up, let’s renew our minds with how God has blessed us, what do we have to be thankful for.  #somuch
When envy plagues, we aren’t stuck.  That’s something to be thankful for to start.  

To the person who thinks they have no impact

To the person who thinks they have no impact, no opportunity to share their faith, their God…I thought so too, until I reframed my thinking!

God doesn’t call us all to full-time missions but we are all missionaries.   When we choose God, we check yes to that box.  You don’t have to be equipped to answer the call, He will equip the called.


“Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.”
Matthew 4:19

A beloved Pastor used to tell the story about how he would often go to McDonald’s and he befriended the drive-through worker.  One day, a particularly cold day, he noticed she didn’t have any gloves and her hands were quite white.  He determined that the next day he would go back with a pair of gloves for her and he did just that.


I was recently at Sonic for my Monday morning soda, Dr Pepper to be specific, and I noticed that the regular drive-through attendant had a raspy voice.  I told her I hope she felt better and I’d be praying for her.  

So the following Monday when I drove through, there she was again sounding a little bit better.   I mentioned,  I was glad she was feeling better.  She said she actually wasn’t and was headed to the doctor.  I told her I hoped she got to feeling better soon and I appreciated she still had a sweet smile on her face.  It was a simple opportunity to encourage her.  I said a quick prayer for her as I left the drive through sipping my soda.  Who knows where that relationship will go?  Only God knows. 

These stories didn’t just impact the person behind the window, they had an impact for the person sharing, the kids in the backseat watching, the congregation listening to the story, the blog reader reading.  


God is good.  When we step out in obedience, God will take care of the impact.

What greater way for our kids to learn to love others well than by watching US love others well.  More is caught than taught.  We are to be the hands and feet of Christ. 

Unless you live alone with no interaction with anyone or anything, you have an opportunity for impact.  You were created for it.  From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep at night, every single day for as long as you live, God gives you opportunity. You simply have to be obedient to the call.

Look around you.  What opportunities do you do you have?  Your husband.  Your kids. Your extended family.  Your church family.  Your kids school.  The crossing guard.  The mailman.  Maybe it’s not a drive-through worker but there are people needing to hear from God and your voice could be the avenue.   


As you go about your life, remember you are here not to merely live, but to share the good news of Jesus.  Let that be ever on your mind no matter where God calls you to or what you are doing.  Let your actions speak the gospel.
Everyone needs encouragement as their shoulders sag from the grind of life.  Would you want someone to withhold encouragement from you?  Get out there, cultivate relationships, shine bright and serve Him well.  We will never fully know this side of heaven the impact we were able to make for God.


Pray for opportunity and then get out there, live your life and make an impact for God!

Let your actions speak the words of the gospel…

 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,  knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.  
{Col. 3:23-24}

How will you make an impact today?  Are you ready? (the answer is yes 😉

Do yo have a story of how someone impacted you with their deeds and kindness?  Share in the comments!  

Be the Mom Village, The Mom Tribe, The Mom Squad

I was running late #always and so I didn’t bother to notice the puke in Lucy’s bed.  She hardly ate a bite for breakfast.  The first alert I had was Vera yelling from the backseat, Lucy’s puking everywhere. #nice I ran her into preschool and smiled to my neighbor and said Lucy just puked, can you bring home Vera?  Mom Squad.

A sweet friend’s water broke at just 33 weeks.  A friend texted us and we all went to pray with her.  Mom Squad.

Taking a meal. Mom Squad.

A shoulder to cry on.  Mom Squad.

Watching another mom’s kids while she goes to serve in her son’s classroom.  Mom Squad.

We ALL Need A Mom Squad.

Take it from me, each additional kid, as they get older, as I get older this do it yourself-er (and I am not talking about home DIY) realizes the deep, deep need for a village.  A tribe.  A squad.    You can not be all places, do it all, be everything to everybody every moment of the day.  You need help.  You aren’t failing if you ask for help, you are human.

The Webster’s dictionary Siri defines squad as a small group of people having a particular task.

Task — motherhood
Squad — mothers
Motherhood was never meant to be an individual competition.  There is no podium, no trophies for participation.  Motherhood is a team sport.    It’s messy, dirty, sanctifying, hair-raising, adventure-ridden, chaos with a lot of fun, squishy hugs and wet kisses thrown in for good measure and you need someone to high five and say – You got this.
We cannot do it alone.  We need a mom squad.   A mom tribe.  A mom village.
We have a deep need for community and relationships.  It’s in our XX DNA.

What if you don’t have a village?

You need one.  So be the village.  It takes being the village to have a village.   #activeparticipationfolks
Be the caretaker, shoulder, taxi driver, meal taker, accountability partner, and hand holder.  Write a note the good old fashioned way and walk it down to the mailbox or better yet give yourselves a moment to breathe and have your kids do it for you!
If you seek community, a community will seek you.  To be a friend is to have a friend.  
Get out there and say hello (it’s uncomfortable for everyone), you might just meet your dearest friend while sitting alone at the library.
To be the village is to have a village.  
To be the tribe is to have the tribe.  
To be the squad is to have the squad.

No Maximum Capacity in Your Tribe

No matter how big or small yours is, you need it.  So nurture it, care for it and give thanks for it.  Don’t take it for granted, you are going to need them to get to that championship game.  They will be there to swoop in when you can’t and you will be there to swoop in when they can’t.    And one more thing, there is no maximum capacity in these villages so invite people in, everyone needs a village.
Now that’s #squadgoals.

How can you be a village to someone today?  How has someone been the village to you?


Until next time keep on keeping on with a simple purposeful life!

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